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Psychic powers? Or calibration skills?

Psychic Powers -- NoOnce, I was hanging out with my then girlfriend, in her apartment. Out of the blue, I turned to her and said, “You’re picturing deviled eggs right now.” She said, “WHAT THE Ff*&^? How do you do that?” and stepped back away from me, a little bit freaked out. Even though she hadn’t said anything, I knew exactly what mental image she had in her mind. Am I psychic? Do I have psychic powers?

No. In fact, I don’t believe psychic phenomenon or anything supernatural exists. You might. But this article is not about that. This was a case of calibration, plus a little detective work and rapport. When you calibrate well enough, and you have good enough rapport, you will occasionally get hits this strong. You’ll literally know what images people are making in their minds (even the ones they’re not aware of). You’ll know what kinds of internal dialog they’re having and maybe even who’s saying it (internal dialog can be in other people’s voices, you know). And you’ll know what they’re feeling.

All this is super useful for working with clients, in a job, socially, or in relationships.

What Is Calibration?

Calibration is simply noticing things about people and (often) relating them to an emotional state. Let’s say you’re working with someone who has anxiety (for instance). At the end of a session, she says she feels better. It’s a good idea to know whether or not she really does! The opposite can happen too. A client can tell you that nothing has changed, but you can see (if you calibrate well), that their response has changed.

And of course, sometimes what they say and what their out-of-consciousness behaviors tell you, agree.

When words and unconscious markers disagree, I have a general rule with people. Trust their unconscious signals more than the words they speak.

Would I Lie To You, Baby?

Why do people have different messages coming through conscious and unconscious channels? Well, a person might hope they’ve changed when they tell you they’ve improved. They might want to be polite. They might think change is impossible and just want to get out of your office. In short, they have a conflict. They are trying to suppress one side of it and that side comes out of the channels in which they don’t have much conscious control.

Tone of voice, posture, facial expressions, breathing — it’s tough to keep track of all of these and make them exactly the same as when you’re saying something with which you feel perfectly comfortable. So, the signs are there; if you know how to read them.

There’s More…

But reading conflict is not the only reason to calibrate. As I mentioned, when you calibrate a state, you can notice it later. Like hunger, for instance. Or impatience. Do it well enough, and it’s almost like you have psychic powers 🙂

My ‘Pychic’ Powers

So, how did I know my girlfriend was thinking about deviled eggs and picturing them right at that moment?

  • Well, it was about 11:30 in the morning and neither of us had eaten much. I was hungry. I looked at her and she matched the responses I’d seen when she’d previously been hungry.
  • I saw her glance in that direction of a nearby grocery store (you couldn’t see it from her apartment, but since she glanced in that direction, I knew she was thinking about it).
  • We had been in that same store the day before and when she looked at the devilled eggs, I calibrated a look of desire on her face. I saw that same look on her face, just after she looked up to her left (remembered images for her) and near the same time she looked in the direction of the store.
  • She used the phrase, “What’s good for the goose, is good for the gander” a little while earlier. I’d never heard her use that phrase before, so I suspected there was a related image in her mind (geese/chickens/eggs).

So, I guessed she was hungry, thinking about the deviled eggs she’d wanted the day before.

If you’d like to learn more about calibration, and how it can almost make you seem like you have psychic powers, check out my free NLP core skills course. There’s a section on calibration.

Enjoy,
Keith

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Keith Livingston is the main instructor for Hypnosis 101. Keith has been studying hypnosis since he was a boy and doing hypnosis & NLP training since 1997.

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