What a dog can teach us about state management, perseverance and weaknesses.Continue reading
What goes on inside the mind of someone experiencing anxiety, depression or sadness? Understanding this process is key to changing it. What do anxiety, depression, and sadness have in common? What beliefs might be getting in the way of feeling better? What does He-Man and the Master of the Universe have to do with it?
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There are many ways to look at the world or a particular context or situation in the world. We call those viewpoints “frames of reference.” Some frames help us to accomplish our goals and live the kind of lives we want to live — and some don’t.
As NLPers and hypnotherapists, it can be part of our job to ferret out those frames and help people have more empowering frames, when those frames are interfering with the client’s outcomes. And one of the best things we can do for ourselves is to challenge frames that are getting in our own way. Over the years, I’ve noticed patterns in troublesome frames. Here are some that I think bear challenging.
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How do we spot negative beliefs in ourselves and others? What language patterns easily reveal belief systems so we can work on them? Why isn’y anybody parked on my street today and what does that have to do with mental shortcuts?Continue reading
I get asked a lot about what technique to use when, how to use hypnotic language in a session, how do you apply anchoring and the meta model. In NLP trainings, techniques are often taught one-at-a-time and as discrete techniques. In sessions, there’s more improvisation. Many students are uncomfortable with that. Thus, teachers in the field promote authoritarian models where the therapist controls the whole process and has a regimen all laid out. But in my mind, the best healers work with what the client gives them. They respond — not dictate. They explore the client’s model of the world and help the client adjust their ideas, thoughts, beliefs and patterns until the client achieves their goal. How do you do that? ReadContinue reading
So, when we pay attention to some things, we don’t pay attention to others. Big news? Scientific American thought it important enough to publish an article on it. But why is it important? And how does the mind know what to pay attention to and what to drop put of our conscious awareness? And what do we do about it?
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“Argue For Your Limitations, And Sure Enough They’re Yours.” It’s a quote by Richard Bach. How does it apply to personal change? And what dangerous, hidden attitude can have a dramatic and powerfully negative effect when trying to change yourself or others? Find out in…Continue reading