I once had a potential client contact me because he wanted to pray more. He was praying 6 hours a day, and he wanted to pray 8. But that’s not what this post is about. I didn’t take him on as a client, but I sometimes use the story as an example to point out […]Continue reading
There are many ways to look at the world or a particular context or situation in the world. We call those viewpoints “frames of reference.” Some frames help us to accomplish our goals and live the kind of lives we want to live — and some don’t.
As NLPers and hypnotherapists, it can be part of our job to ferret out those frames and help people have more empowering frames, when those frames are interfering with the client’s outcomes. And one of the best things we can do for ourselves is to challenge frames that are getting in our own way. Over the years, I’ve noticed patterns in troublesome frames. Here are some that I think bear challenging.
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How do you fill up your hypnosis practice in a year, from scratch? What if you don’t even know anybody in your city? What if you don’t have any business experience? What if peole say you’re too young, or too old?
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Scientific backing for using metaphor in therapy. How does it work? How can simply telling a story change someone’s brain and activate their strengths? Did you know that, when you hear a story, areas in your brain activate just as if you were experiencing the events in the story?
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Some people say it takes 6 weeks to break a habit. Untrue. Habits can be broken in an instant, but you’ve got to understand what’s important. Habits, by definition, are unconscious. You do them without thinking. So, there’s the unconscious programming part of it. In this post, we take a look at a little experiment that tells us just how easy it is to break the unconscious programming part of a habit in…Continue reading
Lots of people deal with procrastination in one context or another. How do you help them (and yourself)? Well, there are two things you’re going to need to do. Skip them and your efforts will likely fall flat. Include them and you’re much more likely to experience success. I call them “The Two Hoops.” What are they? Find out in…
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Have you ever been in a group of people and someone from a ways away waved at you? Maybe you weren’t sure if they were waving at you or someone behind you but you didn’t recognize them. And as they came closer, you weren’t sure how to react. “Should I put on my, ‘Good to see you’ face or should I look like I don’t know them,” you might think. You’re confused.
Find out why that state of confusion is so valuable and why you’re going to want to create that confusion in others if you want to help them learn or change in…Continue reading