I have been so excited about learning all of these techniques that I have looked at a variety of sources for information. I have books, some Anthony Robbins tapes, and a few internet sites I visit to watch NLP & Hypnosis videos.
I have been thinking about signing up fot the Global NLP Basic and Master course in San Diego coming up in November. When I told my (former) mentor about it he was “glad to have the pressure off, so we could just be friends again.’
I just got home from THAT conversation. I am out of his NLP class.

Do you have any suggestions for other things I could do (besides what I am already doing) to maintain my momentum and excitement ? I feel like someone has kicked me in the gut ! I am still planning to save up for San Diego, but I am not sure what to do in the meantime. I still have my NFNLP Basic guide to read and all of the other resources, just not the hands on trainer.

Dave

I’ve seen a lot of folks who have favorite NLP techniques. For a while parts is their favorite. They use it on everything. Then it’s working with time lines. Then Core Transformation etc.

I think it’s useful to think about it like a conversation. You don’t freak out because you aren’t sure what words you’re going to use. You just respond when the other person talks. It’s natural.

The challenge when you’re new is that there’s a limited vocabulary. Maybe you only have 6 tools in your toolbox rather than 20. You might be surprised at how much good those 6 tools can do. For instance, I like to teach people anchor collapsing early on. It’s fun to watch them go out and solve long-standing problems in just a few minutes.

What’s even more fun is when they don’t. Sometimes, they’ll come in from an exercise and say something like “Well, I tried an anchor collapse and his amputated leg didn’t grow back. Why didn’t it work?” OK, I’m exaggerating. The point is, they often come back having worked on what has been a big problem in someone’s life and they’ve “failed” at their first attempt.

That’s when I know things are going well. They are already expecting to succeed–in ten minutes, with difficult issues and using one of the first techniques they’ve learned! “Hey folks, it’s day two here. You’ve already done minor miracles. We don’t get to the major miracles until day three!”

When I see that particular frustration in a student’s face, I think of it differently. I see motivation to learn. I see caring–they want to help somebody and they don’t want to wait. I know it’s a good sign.

It’s good to go in with an open mind (as I’m sure you have). The timing of the openness is important too. Be open to the possibility that you know, on a deep level what to do. Be open. Be open when you start to work with someone. Open to the conversation that’s about to occur. Maybe that’s what your mentor means by “Go ahead and USE IT.” From my vantage point, it’s nice to see a student using something they don’t consciously know they know yet!
Keith

Parts work is for when a client is conflicted (but not necessarily)
Time line therapy would be helpful to someone showing signs of age regression (but not necessarily)
… and so, on goes the list of tools and applications.

I know better than to put roadblocks in front of myself, and I conciously avoid doing that as much as possable.

Thank you for your blog.