Group Rapport

Group Rapport

Recently I was asked about how to generate rapport with groups. Since I do a fair amount of public speaking and teaching, it’s a subject with which I’m familiar.

Rapport techniques in NLP are based mainly on matching a person’s behavior in some way–posture, breathing, rate of speech etc. Well, it’s challenging to match the posture of 30 people all at once without ending up looking like a pretzel!

So, group rapport is different. Get it with these strategies…

1) Finding the leaders and best liked people in a group and matching them
2) Eliciting states of liking and rapport group-wide
3) Creating or highlighting some sort of commonality in the group
4) With small groups you can go from person to person and match each person for a time
5) Making sure your communication style hits all the bases

The techniques can be quite different depending on whether you are leading a group (such as teaching a seminar) or whether you’re simply a member of a group (such as a round-table business meeting).

When You Are Leading A Group

You can use all of the strategies listed above. It’s a good idea to have a group perform some sort of activity which gets them all doing something together. That helps generate a sense of group rapport (be sure to participate).

For instance, I often ask people to take a deep breath in, and as they let it out relax their bodies. I explain that a relaxed person learns better and since they’re there to learn, this will help. I take a breath and relax with them. Doing some sort of exercise up front also has the advantage of getting folks to follow your suggestions. That’s the start of a pattern of them following more suggestions!

Eliciting Rapport-Building States

To elicit a state of liking and rapport group-wide, I often ask folks to think about a time where they had a teacher that they liked and who delivered information to them in a way that made it easy for them to learn.

I ask “How does it feel” to sit in a classroom while you’re quickly and easily learning material from someone you really like. Motion toward them when you talk about sitting in a classroom and toward yourself as you talk about “someone you really like.” That helps the unconscious mind get the idea that you’d like them to apply those feelings, not only to a past event but to the current situation.

If you know how to embed suggestions you can easily spot a few phrases in the above paragraph that can be marked out to the benefit of your students/attendees.

I cover how to get rapport in a group you’re not leading, here.

Enjoy,
Keith

About The Author:

Keith Livingston is the main instructor for Hypnosis 101. Keith has been studying hypnosis since he was a boy and doing hypnosis & NLP training since 1997.

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  1. I read this article just before I had to teach a class to my fellow associates, many of which don’t really care for me because I’m very aggressive. Dang it work like a charm. Have had several come up to me tell me how much they learned. Thanks Jim Lee

  2. Perfect timing Keith. I’m scheduled to give 3 training classes on “How to communicate more effectively and get the results that you want.” This will be my approach. I’ll let you know how it goes. THANKS

  3. I couldn’t agree with you more. I try to start all of the small groups I do with something that connects the group together. It might be a question, or an exercise such as you describe to put everyone on the same page…or link everyone together…

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